HOW TO RID YOURSELF OF PARASITIC, WORTHLESS PEOPLE – by Patrick J. D’Arcy

My instincts are to help people, but that means I get taken advantage of by “needy” people who  are truly parasites in disguise, and who bring to me their endless stream of problems.  I am not talking about persons who truly are in need – those with physical and mental disabilities, or the elderly or infirm.  I am talking about able-bodied persons who just endlessly dump their bullshit upon you.  Believe me, if it becomes a pattern, you are being manipulated.  They don’t give two shits about you.  To them, it’s a “game” to see how little they can do, and how much you can do for them.  They are passive aggressive, and will not do anything for you in return.  You will notice that they go on vacation during the busiest time of the year for your department.  For them, you are their white night, and you will be on speed dial with panic calls requiring you to spring into action.   You gave them rent money, only to find they blew it in Vegas, and now are being evicted, and need a place to stay – with their three toddlers.  You worked out repossession of their car with the bank (they asked you to call the bank to help them “figure it out” because they “are not good at math”).  Then, they miss the payments again, and ask for more help.  They bring their loving dog to your house to watch “for a few hours,” only to be gone for several days, and will not call you or text you about why they have not returned.  You, of course, couldn’t leave the dog alone in your home, so you canceled plans with your friends to make sure the dog was ok.  They come back, “apologetic,” and explain “what a great time  I had in Tahoe, and I couldn’t call because we were at a chalet and there was no phone reception.”  “Tahoe?  You said you were just leaving for a few hours.”   “A few hours?  Did I say that?  Oh, I am so sorry.  You’ve been great.  We should catch up some time!”

Once The Parasite Latches On, You Will Be Responsible For Their Life And Emotional Well-Being.

Once you climb into the ring with them, they will latch on tight, and suck out every bit of your time, money and energy.  And let’s not forget the heavy negative energy and drama they bring to you, too.  You might be just trying to relax after another tough day, and your phone rings.  It’s “him.”  He might say, “Can you call me at 5:00 a.m. so that I wont miss work? I’m really tired.” Failing to answer means more drama.  Five more text messages hit your phone.  “I need your help!’ “Are you there??????”   “Can YoU cALl me PLeasE?????!!!!!!”   Finally, you call.  Then, it’s more hell.  Ok, so what’s the answer?

Learn To Set Boundaries, And To Recognize Patterns Of Manipulation

I am always charitable until I see a pattern or feel manipulated.   Don’t be uncharitable, and change who you are due to these bozos. My post deals with “manipulative patterns of conduct,” not isolated issues that come up and that could happen to anyone. People need help. The question is: do they rescue themselves and just need a helping hand into the boat, or are they the type who expects you to supervise them and bail them out of trouble?

If the pattern emerges, do not react.  Do not feed into the energy.  Do not give them elaborate, fake reasons.  These experts will actually cross-examine you to get to the truth.  Then, you’ll accuse you of lying to them!    They are master manipulators.  You will be caught off-guard at how brazen they can be,   Simply say, “I can’t help you, and I’m hanging up.” Then, hang up.  Don’t equivocate, or become wishy-washy.  They will respond with vitriol, guilt shaming and the like.  It’s all part of the manipulation.  They will never become responsible with human safety valves like you lying around. 

Cut Them Off, With A Simple “I Can’t Help You.”  Then Hang Up Or Walkway.   Do Not Make Elaborate Excuses.  They Will “Test” These Excuses to Manipulate You Even More

Parasites will get angry when you cut off their money and fuel supply.  Watch how quick they become angry and then turn on you!  All of your prior charitable acts will be quickly forgotten or brushed off. You see, they need people to regulate them because they refuse to regulate themselves. You’ll get a feeling of immense satisfaction when you see them hitting up other people to do what you did for them.  Also, do not flatter yourself.   These types are creative geniuses.  Do not think they didn’t pitch the “rent story” to ten other people, and not only got the rent money from several of them, but used that money to buy a nice watch or new clothes too.  Because they are parasites, they will need to latch on quickly to a new host, and when they do, they will never approach you again.  You are not losing a friend, just a liability. 

Don’t Worry, They Never Liked You.  You Are Not Losing A Friend, You Are Losing A Liability.

The sobering reality about being used is the you feel responsible for allowing it to happen. Don’t worry. Forgive and forget. That will cut down on the emotional stress these useless people toss upon everyone. Nature doesn’t put up with these shit. The momma bird throws the young one out of the nest. In the wild (and in prisons), the big eat the little. You are actually doing them a favor. Let them realize that there are no easy escape hatches, which will force them to learn what it means to grow into being a responsible person. Hopefully, they will rebound, and one day thank you.